Share the love


Every fall when the leaves start to turn, I remember with clarity the details of “that” October.  The moment in time, when our growing little family changed forever.  Twenty years ago daughter #1 was excited to be starting Montessori kindergarten in the morning and French Immersion in the afternoon.  She was enrolled in ballet and tap classes and could sing like an angel (a mermaid actually).  I was in constant touch with our doctor but when I knew that what he described as the flu symptoms had developed into something much worse, we were off to the hospital and began a two month stay and a new life.

Sister #2 took time off work to be with us during those long days.  Sister #3 moved into our home to care for our three year old son.  Strangely enough what I remember the clearest about those grief filled days was the food, delivered to the hospital for D and I to warm in the nurses’ micro-wave so that we did not have to eat hospital food.  And the soups and loaves that were dropped off at our home to sustain the comings and goings of our fractured family and our new routine.  Ironically, I kept very little of that food down as I was in the first trimester of pregnancy with our youngest child.  

I can’t recall the tastes and details of the dishes now, but I can recall the love.  The time was a catastrophe but in its midst, we were so very loved. 

So here we are twenty years later….daughter #1 lives downtown with her precious baby dog Caleb.  She has her first degree and has just applied for grad school.  She has a busy social schedule but keeps Sundays open for our family dinners.  Her little brother is married and is still wonderful in his role of creating lightness and hilarity in our family.  Her baby sister is a natural care-giver and has travelled the world to look after little ones and works one-on-one with a client like daughter #1 who both live with permanent disabilities.

So what am I rambling on about?  To me, food=love.  Cook a double batch of something tonight and find some one’s doorstep to leave it on.  Let me know how that goes.  

Kath’s quote: “Sharing food with another human being is an intimate act that should not be indulged in lightly.”-M.F.K. Fisher

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5 Comments to

“Share the love”

  1. Avatar September 20th, 2010 at 12:39 pm Lori Says:

    Aww.. I wish I would have read this BEFORE I cooked up my pot of soup this morning! If I shared the tiny bit we have left, I think it would look more cheap than generous! haha! Next time..

  2. Avatar September 20th, 2010 at 12:52 pm kath Says:

    the willingness to share is the most important thing

  3. Avatar September 20th, 2010 at 1:32 pm Jan Says:

    Kath, that is so moving. Hugs my friend!!!

  4. Avatar September 20th, 2010 at 2:25 pm kath Says:

    hugs back to you Jan

  5. Avatar September 25th, 2010 at 8:31 am Sister @3 Says:

    I remember the big Imperial cookies from Guildy’s and how that was our little bit of paradise in during such scary days. I also remember there was lots of laughter in Kate’s room. All of us would joke and play with her, thinking back I hope we didn’t all drive her crazy!

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